Respect: High or special regard.
Pride: Inordinate self-esteem; conceit; a reasonable or justifiable self-respect
Humble: Not proud or haughty; not arrogant or assertive
Some events at work the last several months got me thinking about these words. Is there a difference between thinking you're worthy of respect and having pride? It seems like there is a difference, but the line to cross from one to the other can often be difficult to identify for our human nature I think.
Related to this, here are a few verses for thought.
Proverbs 16:18 says, "Pride goeth before destruction, and an haughty spirit before a fall."
Proverbs 16:19, "Better it is to be of an humble spirit with the lowly, than to divide the spoil with the proud.
God is no respecter of persons"
Psalm 138:6, "Though the Lord be high, yet hath he respect unto the lowly: but the proud he knoweth afar off."
I Peter 5:5, "Likewise, ye younger, submit yourselves unto the elder. Yea, all of you
be subject one to another, and be clothed with humility: for God
resisteth the proud, and giveth grace to the humble."
Romans 2:11, "For there is no respect of persons with God."
So there is definitely a difference between respect and pride. And God is not a respecter of persons, but he is most definitely a respecter of spirits/attitudes. And I've learned the hard way the last few months that there is more pride hiding in my heart than I thought.
At a workshop at the last Society of Women Engineers Convention I attended, I went to a session on how to influence people. One thing the speaker mentioned is that one of the oldest concepts for humans is the concept of respect. It's supposedly one of those things that's in the reptilian part of our brain. We are constantly assessing if people are respecting us, and many times we might become angry or irritated when we feel we are not being respected. For example, road rage: one of the reasons we often get road rage when people cut us off in traffic is because we feel that person just disrespected us by cutting us off.
Does this need for respect come from pride? Or do we need to feel worthy of a certain amount of respect to have proper self esteem?
It seems we need to have enough respect for ourselves and our soul to believe that God would be willing to send His son to the earth to die for us. Yet, we don't want to feel inordinately good enough as we are that we don't need the redemption His son gives us.
Now to live humbly.....